Arkhangelsk woman pregnant by married man
The young woman was sure her partner was divorced
An Arkhangelsk woman told the whole country how she became pregnant by a married man. The 27-year-old Nina appeared on the show “Pregnant by Deception” (16+) on the Yu TV channel. She shared the story of meeting the man of her dreams, who turned out to be secretly married.
Mother abandoned her, husband cheated
«Twenty-seven-year-old Nina from Arkhangelsk thought she had perfect relationships: a loving man who immediately bonded with her daughter, moral and financial support, complete mutual understanding. However, everything began to collapse when Roman suddenly stopped getting in touch…» — that is the description under the episode about the Arkhangelsk woman.
«My name is Nina, and I’m pregnant by a married man,» is how the episode begins.
Nina is 27, a child psychologist by education. She works as a nanny, looking after a neighbor’s child. She is raising an eight-year-old daughter alone. Nina divorced the girl’s father five years ago after he cheated on her several times.
The young woman said she was born into a two-parent family; when she was five, her parents divorced. Her mother met another man, and they had another child — Nina’s brother Andrei. When the stepfather died, Nina’s mother began drinking and disappearing from home.
«Mother behaved toward us very badly. She could leave us alone. She didn’t care whether we had food, how my brother and I would manage.»
When Nina was 10, her mother took her and her brother to their grandmother in the village to be raised. Since then, they have not spoken with their mother. An important person in Nina’s life is her father’s sister, Aunt Elena. She has always helped Nina, offering advice like a wise adult.
After school, Nina entered university. After her first marriage, she had another relationship, which ended, and she decided to devote herself to raising her daughter. Then she met Roman.
Man of her dreams
Nina met Roman at a workout. He asked for her phone number and then invited her on a date.
«I liked Roma right away. He’s very positive, energetic, and cheerful,» is how Nina described the start of their relationship.
Roman works as a crew foreman for a mobile car service in various northern cities. He often goes on business trips. He had been married for 10 years. The former spouses are still dividing property in court — a car and a house. They have a 10-year-old daughter from the marriage, whom Roman does not see often.
After three months of dating, Nina suggested that Roman move into her apartment, which she took out on a mortgage two years earlier.
«We live together, and I feel like the happiest person,» Nina admits.
Roman’s face was not shown in the program
The couple had no financial problems, but once Roman could not send Nina money to make the credit-card and mortgage payments. He borrowed from his best friend, Denis. At that moment, Roman was on a business trip. While Nina was waiting for him to come home, she learned she was pregnant. The couple had planned the baby. The news made Roman happy when he returned.
Nina and Roma went to play billiards with their friend Denis, from whom Roman had borrowed money. He asked when Roman would repay the debt. The question made Nina uneasy. She worries about finances, especially with a baby on the way.
Next time, Denis reminded them about the debt while Nina was at a manicure appointment. He called her and said Roman still hadn’t returned the money. Nina tried to reach Roman, but he didn’t pick up.
Nina sent Roman an angry voice message, and the man stopped responding
«Roma is married. He didn’t tell you?»
Nina went to visit her grandmother and said she was expecting a child. Although the older woman raised Nina, she is sure Nina should make peace with her mother.
«Did you tell your mother?» the grandmother asked.
«What mother? You know I don’t speak to my mother,» Nina replied.
«Isn’t it time to reconcile?»
Nina does not want to reconcile or even discuss the topic.
After a while, Roman called back. He said he had a lot of work and apologized for disappearing. He said he would send money and repay Denis. Nina felt less anxious and invited him to the first screening (a routine prenatal examination). Roman agreed, but on the day of the screening he did not answer calls and ultimately didn’t show up.
Roman did not answer calls and messages, though he read them
Nina told Aunt Elena about this. The aunt is skeptical about Roman. She believes the man should propose and that the couple should get a larger apartment. Nina thinks there’s no need to rush. Meanwhile, Roman again stopped answering calls.
«I don’t understand why all this is happening to me. It feels like a streak of bad luck in my bright life,» Nina laments.
Worried about Roman, she decided to call his friend Denis. He said Roman had repaid the debt and shared another piece of news:
«To be honest, I don’t want to get into your relationship, but I can’t keep quiet. Nina, Roma is married. Didn’t he tell you?»
Nina had thought Roma was divorced and was sure he was not in contact with his wife. Roman again stopped answering calls and messages.
«Don’t call me anymore»
Nina didn’t immediately believe Denis, but Roman offered no comment, keeping silent. Nina decided to meet Denis in person.
«It seems to me you made all this up,» Nina began.
«He doesn’t live with his wife — he already left her. Their divorce proceedings are still going on,» Denis explained.
The man said Roman is legally married, but his wife won’t grant a divorce. Nina refused to believe it.
Roma called right after the meeting with Denis and asked Nina why she had met him.
«Is that what concerns you most right now?» the young woman was surprised.
Roman admitted that he is married, is now trying to divorce his wife, and asked for forgiveness.
«I don’t want to hear from you or know you anymore. Don’t call me again,» Nina ended the conversation.
Nina’s friend Elena advised her to break up with Roman; she believes it’s better to be alone than in such a situation. But Nina couldn’t make a decision right away.
Roman came to Nina with a bouquet of flowers to explain himself.
«If you don’t believe me, let’s go to my lawyer — we’re preparing a divorce claim,» Roman proposed.
«What kind of relationship are you planning to build on lies? How long were you going to keep silent? You shouldn’t have come. I don’t need a relationship with a married man; I don’t intrude into other families.»
Despite the conflict, Roman sent money for the mortgage and credit card. Nina wanted to believe him again. For advice, she turned to a support community for women who had been deceived. There she met another woman, Elena, who had been in a similar situation. They decided to meet.
Elena said she learned the man was married from a mutual acquaintance. In the end, he divorced his wife. They have two children, and Elena forgave him. After this meeting, Nina thought she and Roman might work things out and invited him to the second screening. He said he would go.
«I won’t break up anyone’s family»
On the street, Nina was approached by her mother, likely drunk, to apologize. Nina believes her grandmother arranged it. Nina’s mother sobbed and hugged her daughter.
«I needed you earlier — for you to come earlier, to be there earlier,» Nina replied to the pleas for forgiveness. «I’m not ready to forgive you. God may forgive you, but I can’t. I needed you all my life, and you weren’t there. Now I’ve grown up; I have my own life. You left me and went away.»
«People forgive, even on television, on every show,» Nina’s mother noted. But the young woman couldn’t do it.
Nina still cannot forgive her mother
The day of the next screening came. Roma didn’t show up again. Aunt Elena believes there’s no point waiting and that Nina should file for child support. Nina still hesitated. Elena suggested the young woman meet Roman’s wife. Nina agreed.
«I won’t break up anyone’s family, regardless of whether there really is a family or not,» Nina shared.
Roman continued sending money for the mortgage. Soon he called, explaining that work had kept him from coming. Nina was hurt.
«I’m very glad we’ll have an heir,» Roman said.
«Yes, yes — “we” in quotes. Mine,» Nina replied.
«You destroyed the family»
Nina got Roman’s wife’s address from his friend Denis. She decided to talk to the woman.
Roman’s wife rudely shut the door on Nina
«You destroyed the family — what do you want from me? By your very presence. You should have paid attention to whom you were getting into bed with. We’re not divorcing. I said I won’t grant a divorce,» Roman’s wife slammed the door in Nina’s face.
After that, Roman called Nina. He believes that after this meeting his wife will impede the divorce. Nina said she no longer wants to believe his words. She is ready to talk only after Roma brings her a certificate of dissolution of marriage. For now, the main thing is the birth.
«I’ve been waiting long enough. I’m tired of this too. When there are actions — then I’ll think. You can’t live on words,» she said.
Nina even went to a psychologist. The specialist believes Nina is afraid of being alone, which is related to the big blow her mother dealt by leaving her to be raised by her grandmother.
Roman came to Nina again. She said she wants him to bring a divorce certificate.
«Only then will I be calm. Right now I don’t want to see you. I want to see the paper [the divorce certificate].»
The son will grow up in a family
Nina gave birth to a boy. She messaged Roma and sent the maternity hospital’s address. On the day of discharge, no one could come to pick her and her son up except Roman.
«I’m grateful to Roma for coming to meet us, but he still didn’t bring the divorce certificate,» Nina noted.
But a month after the baby was born, Roman came to Nina and brought the certificate of divorce.
Roman eventually divorced his wife
«I can’t believe it, but it happened. Of course I’m ready to forgive him for everything, because I truly love him,» Nina says off camera.
Nina introduced Aunt Elena to Roman. The couple decided to sell the apartment and buy a three-room home. Roman will work in Arkhangelsk so he can be with the family.
«I’ve concluded that people should be trusted and given a second chance. We all make mistakes, stumble, fall, then get up and go again. The main thing is to go forward again together.»
At the end of the episode, Nina advised young women to ask a man for his passport when they first meet.
